You probably feel insecure right now but please note that flirting is a fairly common thing, and a bit of harmless flirting never killed anyone.
Flirting is normal… as long as you don’t cross the line or anything.
It’s okay to be occasionally interested in other people, but again no crossing the line.
Of course if he’s telling you that he doesn’t know where your relationship with him stands then you should also be looking at where you stand with him.
There are different kinds of flirting.
It can be playful, esteem motivated, or it can sexual.
If his way of flirting is strictly sexual then this is where you need to ask yourself some questions.
If the flirting was kept a secret from your you then ask yourself why?
We all need the love, acceptance and appreciation of another person.
And when these needs are not met, we are lonely, regardless of our relationship status.
Speak to him about your relationship.
Of course give each other space but figure out what he was looking for with that other person that he wasn’t getting from you.
If you can have a serious conversation about each other’s needs then there is no need by flirting with someone else.
You will also both have to figure out if you are both ready to put in the work to stay together.
Hope this helps!
The Working Girls